Advice On Spicing Up Your Relationship (Without Sex)

by icecreamsandwich in response to request for Advice On Relationships

posted on 03/02/2009

After the novelty wears off in your relationship, you might find it difficult to get back the spark you felt when you first met. There are a number of ways, however, that you can reignite interest in your partner and start having fun again.

1. Spend More Time Together
In this modern age, it is really easy to find yourself working crazy hours, spending time with your own friends (away from your partner), or even sitting in the same room behind your respective computer screens. If you make an effort to do things together, talk to each other more, and spend quality time together, you will inevitably feel closer to the person. You will be more interested in each other's day to day lives and will be developing lots of great memories in the process.

2. Learn About Each Other
As much as you think you might know a person, it is very easy to get into a pattern where you talk about superficial things (e.g. unimportant details of your day, gossip about other people) and don't talk about yourself or ask questions about each other. If you do find yourself actually getting personal in a conversation, you might find out a lot of things about your partner that you didn't know. The tricky part is getting one of these conversations started. One technique is to tell a story about yourself. It doesn't have to be your deepest, darkest secret. You can tell a funny story from your childhood or something that happened in college. That can set the tone for your partner to jump in with stories of his or her own. You'll find that after sharing some of these stories, you will feel more confident opening up about even more personal things and that's where you'll really get to know about each other. This will reignite the bond in your relationship and you'll feel closer.

3. Have New Adventures Together
Try to do things together that neither of you have done before. If neither of you know how to ski, hit the slopes together. If you've never been to a nearby attraction, go and explore it together. You will associate the excitement of doing something new with your partner and will not feel like you've fallen into a routine.

With all of these things, the biggest trick is to break up the pattern that you and your partner have entered. Do new things, learn new things, and spend time together and soon you'll feel like your relationship is brand new again!