Requested: Advice On A Horrible Stepmom
posted on 11/06/2009
okay so I have this awful stepmom. she's been married to my dad for like eleven years now and I cannot stand her! she is a constant pain in the ass, and it seems like no matter what I do or don't do she always blames me for every little thing in her life. she takes out all of her daily stresses on me, she practically controls my dad's every move and despite the innocent little act that she puts on of wanting to be my mom she doesn't treat me at all like she treats her kids. I swear she put some sort of evil spell on my dad that makes him only believe her, only take her side, and always agree with her. I am so fed up with her behavior, I try to ignore it but it's like everyday she affects my life in a negative way and I am tired of her bull shit. If I had one wish it would be that she and my dad had never met. My life would be so much better with out her in it. I find myself dreaming about how to kill her or get rid of her, and I just can't bring myself to do anything that I really want to... like kill her!!! Anyway I just need a way to handle her crap for the next two years that I am stuck in this house. And I could also use some ideas of how to secretly satisfy my hatred of her, like ideas of how to get back at her for being such a bitch all the time. I am thinking spitting in her food and stealing things and fucking with her stuff. I might sound a bit over the top but if you knew the situation you would understand exactly what I mean. She is the most annoying person I have ever met in my life, and I'm forced to live with her everyday as she dictates every single solitary move that I make. I obviously hate her with a passion, and I just need ways to silently get revenge on her or else I am going to go crazy. Please tell me your thoughts and opinions on my situation! If you need more details to understand more of what I am going through than just email me at cayleenoelle@ymail.com
Anyway just please somebody help me out before I go totally insane! I mean seriously imagine the person that you hate most in the whole world living with you and constantly bitching at you and controlling everything you do! I need some good revenge techniques and some good solid advice on how to handle this bitch.. and just so you know befriending her is not an option, not only is it impossible but it's also completely out of the question and I would cut my own head off before being all buddy buddy with her.. I hope that someone out there understands what I am going through and can help me out. Also thank you to anyone who actually bothered to read this!
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mikhail says:
(15d 10h 27min ago)
Just remember that you're not the only one who's ever felt that way. In fact, you're closer to the rule than to the exception. It is in our DNA to reject our parents in our teen years--and by reject I mean feel annoyed, irritated, pissed off, etc. Everyone goes through that and feels that way even about their biological parents--the same people who they loved more than anything else in the world when they were just a little younger. And since you didn't have that early bond with your stepmom, those feelings may be even more exaggerated (and combined with a little bit of jealousy--your description of how she "controls" your dad points to that.)
The good news is that all of this is temporary because you'll soon be old enough for a lot of these feelings to simply go away and also old enough to start your own adult life. In the mean while, you don't want to do anything rash. Even if you don't think you'll ever be able to have normal relations with your stepmom, you don't want to do anything to destroy your relationship with your father. He's in a tough position too, torn between his love for you and for your stepmom, and you have to try to be supportive of him just as much as he should be supportive of you.